Relationships can be a headache, sometimes. Along with the good times always come the bad times and no matter how many times you have been hurt by your partners, the pain is aiways as fresh as if it was the first.
Heartbreaks normally stem from cheating, or as we Bajans like to say, “getting horned.” For centuries, this trend has been recurring in all types of relationships. Cheating has no regard for colour, class, or creed; it happens. For those who have never experienced the feeling of being cheated upon or have never cheated before, let’s hope that for you and your partner’s sake, things remain that way.
People cheat for a number of reasons: either for the mere thrill of it, because they’re not being satisfied in their present relationship, for material gain or just because they can.
Then, there are others who believe that their partner could never be capable of doing such a thing. “My boyfriend would never cheat on me!” they say. Well guys, I don’t really want to put a damper on your spirits but swearing for human beings (who are not perfect) is not such a wise thing to do. I am not saying that everyone cheats but some people do and sometimes the ones who we least expect would do it are the main ones who would.
So what would you do if you found out that your partner was not being faithful to you? There are quite a number of choices which may range from ending the relationship, forgiving your partner and staying in it, physically hurting your partner (the thought often comes to mind), or returning the hurtful favour. It is never really easy deciding on the correct thing to do. Sometimes after you’ve gotten over the initial shock, you tend to calm down and see things rationally sometimes.
It takes two to make a relationship work. Wandering eyes may not mean anything but if other parts of the body start to wander, it can lead to trouble.
Note that throughout this article I refer to both genders and not just one. Females will of course, as men know, have their own notion of the horrible things which men have done to them from time to time, and are probably still doing to them now. But ladies, we have to be fair. Women sometimes cheat on men too (at least that’s what men say). Never mind the macho ego, behind that hard exterior there is a soft heart, which can be broken,
I believe that there is that special someone out there for everyone. He/She may not be perfect but will be someone you can learn to live with. Sure, you may have to kiss lots of frogs before you find your prince or princess but taking your time will not signify laziness or failure.
If the thought of cheating should ever cross your mind and you can’t seem to shake it off, no matter how hard you try, then it’s either that you lack the will power or maybe you’re with the wrong person. If you love someone deeply enough, cheating would be the last thing on your mind. Sounds corny, but it’s true.